When I’m afraid, I freeze. This isn’t just fear about my safety, either. When I’m worried I might say or do the wrong thing, or I don’t know what to do next, I just stand still and wait, unsure how to proceed. I think this is a fairly common response, which is reassuring–but not very helpful. In his book Chasing David , I really appreciated how Rene Schlaepfer used David’s response to Goliath as an example for how we should approach fear. As a bonus, it’s a related mnemonic device: FEAR . F: Find out the Facts In 1 Samuel

This might seem odd for you to hear from me, especially since I’m known for my annoyingly optimistic nature sometimes. But over the years I’ve heard our culture say over and over again: Do what makes you happy. Don’t worry, be happy. If it doesn’t make you happy, it’s not worth it. You deserve to be happy. God Doesn’t Want You to Be Happy There was a time of my life where I bought into this cultural message. I thought God wanted me to be happy. But the more I’ve learned, the more I’ve realized happiness shouldn’t be my goal

It always amazes and surprises me how God reveals what he wants me to hear through a variety of voices and contexts. I guess it shouldn’t surprise me by now since he’s done it over and over again, but it does. Insight From Hebrews My family recently got home from Mount Hermon , a week-long Christian family camp, where I enjoyed hearing Richard Dahlstrom speak about sustainable faith by looking at a few different sections of Hebrews. The Culture As Richard explained, the book of Hebrews was written to Christians experiencing displacement and suffering, competing religious narratives, and the subtle

What’s the best way to teach our children? I’m not a teacher and I have no formal training whatsoever, but if I were to guess, I would probably say a lot depends on the child’s personality, where they are in their development, and whether they learn best by seeing, hearing, or doing. However, I was listening to this Brant and Sherri Oddcast episode the other day, and they pointed out how Jesus taught: he asks questions, tells stories, and lets people wrestle with the meaning. And he didn’t have set “classroom times” and “office hours.” He taught them wherever they

How often do you feel like you don’t measure up? For me, it happens pretty regularly. I feel like I’m not a great mom when I snap at my kids. Or when my focus shifts from trying to keep up on the housework to something else, and then I look around and feel surrounded by mess and clutter. Or when what I intended to say to my husband came out wrong and ended up leading to miscommunication and division rather than connection. And that doesn’t even get into what the world tells me about what sort of woman I should

Like many women, I have struggled with Proverbs 31. I first became familiar with it from DC Talk’s That Kinda Girl : Well I’m lookin’ for a girl who virtuous Cause God laid it on my heart to search for this So I open up the Word to the book of Proverbs The 31st chapter tells me all about her Charm is deceitful and beauty is vain A woman who fears the Lord, she ain’t playin’ Hear what I’m sayin’, cause I’m sayin’ it clearly She’s the kinda girl I gots to have near me Fear the Lord. Don’t focus

Here’s a shock: I’m impatient. I want what I want when I want it, on my time table. I hear myself telling my kids that waiting is part of life, and I know it is both intellectually and experientially, but sometimes I catch myself thinking ahead to what I’m looking forward to, that I don’t see what’s right in front of me. This is especially true with my kids. At ages 3, 5, and 8, it’s not uncommon for me to think ahead to how much “easier” or “more fun” life will be when they’re older. Looking forward to milestones

Last year my mom and I started a virtual Bible study together. Since we’re both busy and don’t always have overlapping time to actually meet, we decided we’d both read the same passage and then email each other our notes. Although it isn’t the same as an in-person Bible study, it was interesting to see what each of us took from the various passages and the perspectives we shared with each other! The Sermon on the Mount One of the passages we looked at was Matthew 5:1-26 , the Sermon on the Mount. As I read through this, I realized